This enthusiasm can be shared, but without all of the unpleasant side-effects of the rest of the disorder, and can add a lot of magic to a relationship. And I read these awful things about people with bipolar and being in a relationship with them. The difficult days are character building days. Apparently none of these are useful because I am to blame for everything. I left three years ago, an entire life of 30 years, a home, pets, adult children, grandbabies, but I almost lost my soul staying all those years. First, we are never secure about our own emotional needs.
For the bipolar spouse, the divorce may lead to a number of difficulties that compound their mental, emotional, physical, and financial difficulties. Keep Yourself Sane Spouses of persons with depression and bipolar unwittingly become caretakers for major chunks of time. He also has seen them here in the town where we live. After the episode, she goes to bed and I stay up and ponder the future. Karp argues that sometimes the well spouse has to withdraw. I can only imagine the drama, fighting, and awful things he would say to our innocent children if I left him. You have taken a mental illness with a pretty wide spectrum and essentially created and reinforced a stigma about merely having it.
The most important thing you can do is have a safe plan for you and the baby. He provides in-person counselling in Kitchener and email, video or telephone counselling within Canada. Each time, she would beg for forgiveness and ask for another chance. My daughter almost 18, my son 14. He is a wonderful father but an awful communicator. I had been diagnosed initially with depression 19 years ago. Hes told multiple people that i have physically hurt him, that i miss used all of our money, cleaned out all our bank accounts, and stole our property.
I feel like I am reading my own personal story in what you have written. Reasons for this intense emotion some days just seem to build. A messy house and who does what and when is a major issue in your marriage. My husband of 16 years is moving out tomorrow. Did it push you further away? Should I feel relieved that he left his ring? The spouse might feel confused, not knowing how to deal with certain behaviors.
Most of the wives I know care deeply for their husbands but are often rebuked for reasons that do not seem apparent to them. The difference between the bipolar and healthy individual is their approach to handling the trigger. Luckily, my husband was diagnosed correctly before too many years passed and, after trial and error with medications, found one that works well for him. Some medications can worsen symptoms. Now i am in a dilemma, its wrong in so many ways to just call it quits specially since in our culture Hinduism its not common for married couples to divorce and its getting even harder to sustain a loveless relationship on my end.
At times the person with bipolar disorder may experience manic or hypomanic episodes manic but more controlled and less extreme during which they can be fun, interesting, talkative, upbeat and full of energy. No one has a monopoly on pain. I hope things improve for you soon. Once I was better educated about the disease, I understood that practical measures would help -- see the doctor, adjust meds, sleep control, reduce stress, give space -- but that emotional ones would not. One of the many things that psychiatrists do when treating patients with Bipolar Disorder is to meet with family members in order to help them understand the illness and learn how to cope with the illness.
I share this because things do change, things do get better, and you can be with someone with bipolar and still be madly in love and have an amazing relationship; as long as the person with the disease is willing to work toward a solution, be medication compliant, identify triggers, develop coping skills, improve communication techniques, etc. Now I am here with the two kids, feeling completely lost and made to feel so small for making one of the hardest decisions that I have ever had to make to try to help save my husband from himself. I keep looking back at the person I loved, he litrally would do anything for me, was the nicest guy you would ever meet and handsome and caring. Despite the mood swings, your spouse can tell you what he needs. I have been married to my bi-polar husband for twenty five years now and I can honestly say that there are no magical answers as to dealing with someone with this condition. The breaking point may come, however, when the spouse with bipolar disorder begins engaging in behaviors such as sexual promiscuity, gambling, or substance abuse, that are unacceptable to the nonbipolar spouse, even though he is aware it is part of the illness. Your siblings have their own families to worry about.
Please continue to check the site for updated information. This may involve the other spouse keeping the credit cards or even the car keys. These challenges may be completely hidden to the rest of the world. You were strong to break it off. Any advice would be appreciated. Simply put, without understanding a mental illness, it will be extremely difficult to help someone who has a mental illness or to understand what is coming from the mental illness and what the person is doing deliberately.
Neither of us ever thought anything about it growing up. If he comes to his senses, he will realize that the way he left and the threatening letter left for me to find are completely insaine. Researchers at Yale University School of Medicine have found that nearly one-third of caregivers who are nursing terminally ill loved ones at home suffer from depression. His hypimania cycle started 2 years ago and repeated each year. I think it has just hit me, and I am in tears, sad, angry and very much in love with my husband. He has already alienated 2 of the children who live nearby. My kids always came first for me — if I had decided to leave, it would have been because I thought it was best for them.
This is all to communicate this message: marriages in which one person suffers from depression or bipolar disorder can be extremely fragile. What are the consequences of bipolar divorce? We have been married for just over a year after three years of living together and have been close for about ten years. Schwartz intends his responses to provide general educational information to the readership of this website; answers should not be understood to be specific advice intended for any particular individual s. She was unfaithful a few years back and I caught her but I decided to stay. He is currently seeing two counselors and sees his Rx doctor frequently. It has been a long and hard road for us, but for the most part of this struggle the last few months he has been on medication I have remained happy for the most part.