All of the sex isn't bad by any means but it could be sexier from my perspective. Girls build a metal wall once someone mentions the topic, but unless your boyfriend is a sissy, you can openly tell him that you wish him to lose weight. I got pregnant only gained 13 lbs. To a girl who is insecure about her body and being overweight, there isn't much that can be done except to lose weight. Not over weight by any means. We are here supporting you! What if I get Alzheimer's one day, and don't know how to look after myself any more? What if I had to go on steroids for a medical reason and put weight back on? But on to your question. He's like, addicted to me and I feel like I can't breathe or think.
No piece of sweet potato pie is worth that. He eats junk, and drinks beer. I have a body builder boyfriend of 7 years that doesnt think im sexy and thinks i need to go gym. How can I expect for this person to be encouraging or supportive if I experience pregnancy weight gain? When you talk with her- just say- how much you love and care for her and how beautiful you think she is. Either way, when the person we share our bodies with tells us something negative about it, it hurts. If you can't discuss him being overweight, just imagine in your future when the topics get harder to open up about. He see's this and knows I'm at least trying His little digs still upset me occasionally but I've found the motivation to try and lose weight and sometimes knowing that his comments have nothing to do about my weight effecting his love for me but more to do with his desire to live a long life with me gives me that extra shove.
Know that you are beautiful, you are loved, and you are supported. Not good for sleep or diet. If you're in a strong, trusting relationship, chances are that he's concerned for your health and its effects on your relationship, and wants to help you without hurting your feelings. We need you to fight against all these people who want to take us down and destroy our self esteem. Now he never said I was fat but when he did ask me that it would hurt so much.
Her body is her business, and I really do think she is gorgeous, I just want her to know that she is. I definitely encourage you to set some boundaries around this topic for him when you are ready. Bottom line, scary things hide in the darkness. Though the conversation may go differently when a person is at serious risk of hurting herself or others, often times that individual is completely aware of her condition and its effects, and feelings get hurt just as they would in the type of scenario I described in the post. I had a baby four months ago.
. Did he love your lively chatter? I would invite you to use the steps in the post and write out how you are feeling and what you want your husband to know about your feelings, your journey, and how you want yourself and you daughter to have a healthy body image. You texted me that you were joking. I wish I know how to deal with the situation… I even tend to believe that I was not allowed to go outside if I was so atrocious to see. Also — my blood pressure and blood panels are great, so why all the focus on my weight all the time? I apologize for the length but please hear me out! I am just very hurt. I feel that I have to starve myself to get down to 70 pounds to get him off my case. There are sensitive ways to go about it which have already been said in other comments.
Hi Sarah thanks for sharing. That is what makes this all the more disappointing. You should lose weight for you. But I do know that being overweight is unhealthy. I also want to live a fulfilling life and I know I have to be able able to walk up a flight of stairs without getting tired to do so. Thank you for posting this, I feel less alone and less silly for being so hurt.
I'm 5'5 130 pounds by the way. Confused, he just stared at me; he knew more than anyone how desperately I wanted and needed to lose weight. My intention, or end goal, was for her to be happier with herself because it is a huge issue for her. My goal is 12 stone in 12 weeks. That he may want to workout more when you go, or simply he will like the workout experience and go on his own! I would concentrate more on having fun and doing things that inspire you- maybe walk with the baby to a park or neighborhood in town you have wanted to see. And never want to have sex with him ever again Hi Kristina, First try talking loving to yourself and breathing! Sending you all my love and appreciation, Alla Hi Alla, This is an interesting alternate perspective. Do not text talk to him in person and tell him directly with eye to eye contact.
A very bad argument ensued of which he became physical. I want her to be skinny. You are allowed to live your life how you choose. I've told you before that I find most online comment poisonous and believe it to be a pollutant in the ether, contributing to global harming. Literally have a conversation and or write a letter.
It feels great to take care of yourself even if there is no boyfriend in the picture. Most if not all people faced with having to cope with illness or disability in someone they love will ask from time to time, 'Why me? I don't think I could be with someone who told me that if I didn't lose weight, he would break up with me because I want to be with someone who cares more about me than my physical appearance, and I wouldn't want to have to worry about whether or not he'd break up with me if I gained weight, if I had a hard time losing weight, or if any other aspect of my physical appearance changed like, is he going to stop being attracted to me when I get old and wrinkly and break up with me because he wants someone younger and more attractive? Being a size 4 in this situation is pretty good, I think. Both a size 2 and a size 16 woman can be attractive, and there are so many factors that play into this. He is not good at communicating or sharing his feelings. Your hair or your eyes or your lips. I would invite you to try and take 5 minutes and write down what it is you want for yourself right now- is it to lose weight, a night out with your boyfriend, alone time, etc… and then try and think of ways you can start to lean closer towards those things. What happens if, God forbid, I get cancer and lose all my hair? That was his gym Mar 27, 2013 Have you ever felt like you should lose muscle for your dresser because he advises you to.
He alone knew all my secrets. Hi Rachel, I think you need to have a really open and honest conversation about this. I am 27, a Christian, and have only been married a couple of years. Unfortunately through the years his words would continue to haunt me. The other person, or people rather, that trigger that shame response are my mother and grandmother.