Either way, fat is due to excess and indulgent behaviour. What can I do to find my wife attractive again? They literally helped save my marriage. I got tired of the rollercoaster and I was getting too old to waste my time in a relationship that was going nowhere. Something you can focus on indefinitely so you can avoid whatever is really going on. I hope you're not some entitled asshole who believes he deserves the hottest woman when he's not attractive himself , but anyone you are with long term will eventually not be not anymore, so if you want to have a chance at being happy in a longterm relationship, you're going to have to figure out how to keep the passions burning even when you're both ugly. I love her, but this is very real and very problematic for me.
The problem is with food. The key word is 'partner'. He holds the world in the palm of his hands! Loving your wife as Christ loves her is going to speak volumes to her and encourage her to change, because she is loved and supported. For him to help you see her like He sees her. The truth is, true intimacy requires honesty.
Hopefully however, those women choosing the respectful and committed path here, will read and only read , absorb, learn, and apply. It's an unusual, thoughtful, curious gift she'll have to try out. However, I do not believe that this issue of not finding our wife attractive happens as often as wives worry about! You may ask why i would marry a woman I'm not attracted to. Cant guarantee it will forever fix your marriage sexual boredom , but oh those memories will get you through the boring sex. When I got married, I thought it would be the beginning of my sex life, not the end of it. I used to be very overweight and yet my husband still acted attracted to me in spite of not liking how I looked myself.
Remember that when you seek God and cry out to Him for help, that will not be returned void! I have to literally remind myself to with calendar reminders. An important reminder to stand up for our wives! And he can restore anything in a marriage! Her other traits made a complete package that he fell in love with. Lol idk what to say ladies. Talk about other things too. I think people who stop taking care of themselves is selfish. Its like, you know you are behaving like a bastard, but you dont fully own your bastardly behaviour because you are asking on this board if others can relate to your desire to leave her. I diet and exercise hard to stay presentable, I expect at least some effort in return.
As you know first hand, the emotional impact a dysfunctional sexual relationship has on a person can be quite profound. We have 2 kids and I'm approaching 50 now and we're finally splitting up. Both are extremes and both are wrong. He would be an excellent resource for you to help you explore your situation and find solutions. Sure, there are people here and there with charmed brain structures which allow them to remain full of dopamine even within such an arrangement.
Is it lazy sometimes, yes. My hubbs has mentioned many times that paying all the bill is very stressful. But some how cooking is suppose to stop single women from being lonely. I hope there is a solution for your relationship, but it's hard to rekindle a relationship that was never kindled. And yet there is great hope in God and his plan for marriage-no matter what. The reason is because frankly if i left this marriage i have zero intention to ever marry again. Hopefully your wife will get over this and find someone amazing.
I want a happy marriage. That would make things 50 times worse. I mean imagine living a life that you always knew was wrong. If he were to stop, not due to physical ailments, then I would be with someone who is not my husband. Keep praying and loving her in all the ways God has called you to.
We kissed for the first time in 5 months!!! Even in the beginning when we were both very active, athletic, and flirty with one another sex occurred about twice a week and seemed like more of a formality than any super intimate or passionate multi hour sessions. Being desired is a turn-on to a lot of women. I wear long, flowing skirts or cute shorts made to show off my legs. I'm an entirely different person and have so much confidence and joy in who i am. She needs to do more physical Activity.
Thanks for all you guys do! I want to view her as the most beautiful woman I have ever seen. Kim helped us identify our own individual issues and challenges and showed us how those fed into the relationship. I feel like a reconaissance mission. Nothing, zip, actually less than nothing. The fact is, younger women are simply more physically attractive on the surface to most men. Many, many people have had difficult lives and have recovered from terrible things. I went on a date with this one guy and I kid you not, his clothes smelled like when you accidentally leave your clothes in the washing machine for about a week and it gets that sour smell….